I’m listening to Elon Musk’s* biography and it’s astounding. He doesn’t see barriers…EVER. As a result, he and his companies are routinely doing things that the world used to think were impossible.
In fact, if you are an employee and you tell him something is impossible, chances are excellent you’ll be fired. He will inform you that you are no longer needed and that he will take over your project in your absence (on top of all of his other roles). The book’s author says that each and every time he has done this, he has seen the “impossible” through to completion.
Feedback is coming. You just know it. You begin to feel that sick feeling in your stomach. Brace yourself…here it comes…
Can you relate? I know I can. No matter how much training or experience I have, I still have that momentary hit in the gut as I steel myself to hear something I might not like. Something that might attack my idea of myself. Something that might remind me that I’m less than perfect; that someone is onto me.
I used to think that most people, including me, got stuck while trying to accomplish goals or pursue their hearts’ desire because of a fear of failure. I was wrong.
Sure fear of failure can play a role, but I find the fear of success is usually the more powerful block.
To see if this might be true for you, finish the following sentence as many times as you can. Write your answers down and try not to think too hard…just say the stem sentence over and over, and each time spit out whatever comes to mind…
It’s not too late to consider some helpful hints for a more peaceful holiday season:
YES, YES, YES…I was working with an exec client last week who attributed his uncharacteristically flat mood to being over-committed; he’d been saying yes to things he just didn’t want, or ultimately need, to do.
“Fear is frozen fun.”-Drs Gay & Kathleen Hendricks
This quote is from the powerful book, “Conscious Loving.” It goes on to say, “People often get the most afraid just before they are about to step out into the creative unknown, into a new possibility. Fear mobilizes your body for action, but if you do not take action, the energy curdles in your body.”
To say I grew up emotionally confused would be an understatement.
My mother was wildly emotional and my father was the polar opposite. Since I deemed my dad to be the hard working provider and my mom to be the unstable hoarder, my young mind decided that emotions = bad.